It can be really hard to find ourselves when we lose sight of the person that we once were before. And sometimes it’s even more difficult to find ourselves when we don’t even know when we became lost in the first place!
We normally come to the conclusion that we are lost when we take a step back and analyze how we feel about ourselves and our lives.
We might say to ourselves, “I’m just not happy anymore. I don’t like my job. I’m not happy in my marriage,” and so on and so forth, whatever the case may be.
And the sooner that we come to this realization, the sooner we can start doing something about it!
So if you are lost, don’t know who you are, and are ready to change. Here are 9 tips to help find who you are:
1. Accept yourself as you are.
The most important thing is that you look at yourself, think about all of the good and bad and just accept yourself as you are. You don’t necessarily have to love who you are currently, but you need to accept that you need some work, and be committed to making changes that will shape you into the person that you want to be.
2. Reflect on your life.
In order for you to figure out where you want to go and where you want to be; you need to look at how you feel about life currently, and how you feel about your past.
Take a step back and think about how you feel when you look at your current situation. Do you have all of the things that you desire in your life? Do you have the relationship that you dreamed of? Have you gotten the education that you were determined to have? How is your mental health? How do you feel about yourself?
Whatever the case may be, take the time to reflect and then start setting goals that will help you get to a place where you will be happy about your life.
3. Change your mindset.
I know first hand how easy it can be to get comfortable with thinking negatively about everything that goes on in our lives. It becomes a lifestyle in a way, and it affects all aspects of our lives in ways that we may not realize.
If we wake up thinking about how much we hate our jobs and how much we hate getting up early to go to work, school, etc, we are setting ourselves up for a bad day! Instead wake up in the morning and think about the things that you look forward to each day (for me, that’s knowing how when I get home from work I will be welcomed with hugs and kisses from my babies as soon as I walk through the door).
The moment that we decided to change our mindset about how we are going to think about the things that go on in our lives, we will start to see positive changes.
So read a couple of self-help and mindset books. Write and say positive affirmations everyday. Start a gratitude journal. Everyday think of something that has made you feel happy or smile, and I promise you this will make a world of a difference and it will become a new lifestyle that you will be much happier with and see more positive things start to manifest in your life.
4. Forgive others.
There are a lot of times where we have people in our lives who have done some unforgivable things to us. Maybe someone broke our heart, or we were betrayed by someone that we were really close with. And at times we hold on to the hurt and it effects us in ways that make have changed how we deal with certain situations, who we decided to trust, and who we let in our lives.
But this isn’t the way that we want to live. We don’t want to have our guards up for our entire lives, that’s just not a very good way to live. So it is very essential to forgive the people that have wronged us. Not for them necessarily, but for ourselves.
This is a way for us to come to terms with what has been done to us and say, “This has really hurt me for a long time. But I don’t want that hurt and pain to continue to dictate me and how I go about future relationships.” And so we need to do just that.
Do it for you, not them, and you will feel much lighter and like a weight was lifted off of your shoulders.
5. Find what you love to do and do it often.
We are all passionate about something and have things that we would much rather be doing than working.
So get out into the world and have fun! If you like to go golfing, make time to go do it more often. If you like sewing, make time to sew! If you like surfing then do that!
Whatever you enjoy doing and makes you happy, do it! Doing the things that you love make life much more enjoyable and you aren’t just working all of the time.
6. Start journaling.
There are times where we want to vent and get our thoughts out to someone, but sometimes those thoughts may be a little too personal and we don’t want to face judgement, or sometimes we may not have someone to talk to. So if you find yourself in this situation, start writing in a journal!
Doing this can help relieve some of that pent up frustration, stress, anxiety, you name it. You will never have to worry about being judge, or reveling your deepest darkest secrets to anyone, and you will feel much much better at the end of each writing session.
7. Ask for help.
It’s completely understandable if you feel as if you can’t manage to find yourself on you own. Maybe you even feel like you can’t manage to do anything on your own at all. Depression, sadness and being unhappy overall can really take a toll on us, and it is okay to ask for help.
Maybe that help could come from a friend, family member, or a professional, but it is important that we talk to someone and ask for help if we need. We can’t always do it alone and that is nothing to be ashamed of. We have to start thinking about our mental health and our own happiness first, no matter how much we may feel like we have more important things to worry about.
If you think you need help, get some.
8. Look for and listen to signs.
The universe (and God) has a crazy way of working, and often times there are signs that are given to us that we may or may not see. Sometimes we even ignore them.
Maybe we keep having the same dreams over. Maybe we keep trying to reach a certain goal but for some reason, there are always something that gets in the way. Or maybe a relationship that we so desperately have tried to make work just won’t. How about new doors start to open for us and new opportunities start knocking.
Believe it or not those are all signs. And they can come in both good and bad forms. We just need to pay more attention to these things, and be looking for them, because they do happen. It happens to all of us at one time or another.
9. Travel and explore the world.
Maybe we need a change of scenery! So get out there and see what this beautiful world has to offer!
Visiting other countries and places that aren’t the norm for us, can really inspire us in ways that we couldn’t imagine. It can bring that spark back into our lives that we have so desperately been looking for. And we can make new memories that we will have forever.
I hope that these tips will help some of you and that you enjoyed this post. Are there any specific things that you like to do when you are trying to find yourself? Share it with us down in the comments and I’ll see you in my next one!