I became a young mom at the tender age of 19.
I got pregnant at 18 and it came to me as a big shock because I was on the birth control pill and had been intimate with my partner for a year without getting pregnant.
Tyler (my fiance) had been the first (and only) person I had ever been with.
I know what you may be asking, “Well why weren’t you using condoms too Telia? Birth control isn’t 100% effective!”
Yeah I know, and I did use condoms initially, but I had found out that I had a sever latex allergy. I had a terrible reactions to the latex, feeling as if someone was holding a flame to the inside of my vaginal walls, and I just couldn’t take that.
It’s a little TMI I know, but anyone who reads my blog knows that I am just really open and transparent with everything that I speak about.
I was young, and had no knowledge that latex-free condoms even existed and that was my own fault. I could have googled it but I didn’t. I could have asked someone, but I didn’t.
There were a lot of things I could have done differently, but I didn’t and the result was that I ended up becoming a teen mother.
I believe that it was just in God’s plan for me to become a mother and to help me get out of the toxic situation that I grew up and was stuck in. He blessed me so that I could find my purpose, grow, and be able to bless others, so I am forever grateful.
But becoming a young mom is a life changing experience.
There were so many things that I had come to realize and want to share a few things that I learned when I became a mom.
Life is no longer about you.
From the moment that you get pregnant, your life is no longer just about you. Everything you do will affect your child(ren) and their lives.
You can no longer be selfish and do the things that you want to do all of the time because you now have someone looking up to and depending on you.
You now have to put your child(ren) first and worry about what’s the right thing to do in order to make sure that they have the best life that you can provide them with.
It’s important to live your life and have fun, but just remember that your priorities are different now.
The first year is the easiest.
Some people won’t agree with this but in my opinion the first year is the easiest when having a new baby, because for the most part, all they do is eat, sleep, poop, pee, and repeat.
They also aren’t walking around just yet, so it’s a little easier to keep tabs on them at all times, and at that point they are all about you.
But once their walking and running around all day, getting into things they shouldn’t is when they require much more attention and when things get really exhausting. So enjoy the first year while it lasts. You’ll definitely miss them being that small again.
Yes you will lose some sleep during that first year because you’ll be waking up in the middle of the night to change a diaper or feed them, but it isn’t as bad as others make it seem. It wasn’t too bad for me anyway, so this will also depend on your child, every child is different, my newborns were always very calm and quiet.
But even through all of the exhaustion, it will be so worth it.
Your kids will easily become your main source of happiness.
Though things may get rough every once in a while, and we all have our bad days, but your kids will be your main source of happiness.
They will always find ways to make you smile.
You’ll be at work and be super excited to get back home to your kids so you can love on them.
You’ll be watching them play or sleep and just think to yourself, “Wow, I really made that baby. They grew inside of me!”
And when you do have bad days, sometimes all it takes is seeing their faces, to make us feel better and let us know that everything will be okay, and that feeling is the best feeling anyone could experience.
Even through all of the bad days, you know that you wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
There’s no need to be afraid.
This is especially to the new young mommies out there.
I know how nerve-wrecking and scary becoming a mom can be, a young one at that. There are so many things you are afraid of, and so many different things you have to worry about.
You may start to ask yourself things like, “Am I really ready to become a mom?” Or “What if I’m not going to be a good mom.” And so many more other negative and scary thoughts.
Yes you may have these thoughts all the way up until the moment you have your baby (maybe even a while after too), but the important thing to remember is that you will always do whatever it takes to make sure that you baby is healthy, safe, and loved.
No parent is perfect, that is for sure. But there is no need to be scared, because your best interest is in what is best for your child and their well being.
Know that you will never hurt your child, you will always love and provide for them, and most importantly, you’ll be there for them whenever they need you.
So don’t worry momma. You may be young, but you are just as capable of loving, protecting, and providing for your baby just as much as anyone else.
You’ve got this momma. Just keep faith and continue being the amazing mother that you are.