The Truth About My Struggle With Weight Loss

The Truth About My Struggle With Weight Loss

Becoming a mom was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me, and I love my kids with all of my heart. But if you have read my post “5 Tips To Help Boost Your Confidence,” then you would know that I have gained 60 pounds between both of my girls.

It has been 15 months since I have had my youngest daughter and I have been struggling so much to lose some of the extra baby weight. And I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself about it because I did carry two beautiful babies and we are all healthy and well, but when I look in the mirror at my body and see my stomach sagging over the waistband of my pants or how sometimes my oldest daughter comes over to me and starts jiggling my stomach like it’s jello or something, it can get really discouraging!

Hell even when I want to wear something nice to work, or go on date night with my fiancé and I put on something that I think will look good on me…I end up really disappointed and get a little teary-eyed because I feel like the clothes I put on make me look even worse than I did before I even changed.

Another thing that was difficult for me was the fact that my friends that also had kids around the same time that I did, their bodies snapped right back like they never even had a baby! So yes, I felt like there was always something around that discouraged me. I felt like something was wrong with me because I was the only friend that had this dramatic change in my appearance and it had me in a really dark place for a long time.

And the thing that has affected me the most is that I have had so many health issues. Back problems, chest problems, my knees are really bad the list goes on and on!

So after spending nearly a year of fussing, complaining, and being depressed about how I look and even more depressed about how my body feels, I have finally decided that it is time for me to actually do something about it.

I woke up one morning and realized that unless I start doing something about it, nothing is going to change!

And in order for me to start making positive changes and finally being able to lose weight, I need to figure out where the deeper problems lie and what has been keeping me from making some changes a long time ago.

These are the things that have kept me from losing weight;

1.       My Depression/Mental Health

There was a point in time where I was going to the gym three times a week, but I had some really traumatic things happen at the beginning of this year (I will have a post about what happened at a later date), so I had to take a break from the gym to tend to some family issues and to focus on my mental health as I was falling deeper and deeper into depression (I also will be doing a post on postpartum depression soon as I suffered from it greatly).

At that time, I felt like with everything that was going wrong in my life, I had to cut back on some things that I was doing and just focus on not falling apart and regrouping for the sake of my mental health and so I can get back to being the best mom I can be for my kids (my fiancé was a big part of me getting back to my normal self).

2.       I Just Didn’t Have Time

I have a full-time job, I am a mother of two under two, I have a fiancé that also needs attention and we need time with each other to keep our relationship happy and healthy. Let’s not forget to mention I still have a home to take care of and a ton of other things that I have to deal with on a daily basis. So I am a super busy woman to say the least.

From the time I wake up at 5:30 in the morning to get ready for work until the time that I am done cooking, cleaning, bathing kids, changing diapers, doing laundry… You get the picture, I am usually not even in bed until after midnight.

So I don’t have much time to get to a gym or work out at home because I am always doing something and my days can get hectic. I work during the day and my fiancé works during the night so it’s kind of hard to make time to do it.

3.       I Eat When I’m Not Hungry and/or Over-Eat

This is my one of my biggest issues. At my work-place I am only a two-minute walk from a liquor so whenever I would get bored while sitting at my desk, I would just walk to the store and buy candy, chips, cookies and all kinds of unhealthy crap and just eat durning my whole shift. Let’s not even talk about how I could just drive a few minutes up the street to Taco Bell and be back at my desk eating in 10 minutes. Hell, there is even times where that I will have nothing to do, so I will just eat, and eat until I felt sick and I hate that I allowed myself to do that for so long.

4.       My Physical Health

I had gestational diabetes during my last pregnancy and when you combine that with me now being 200 pounds, I am at a higher risk of developing type two diabetes.  I’m also tired of the fact that I can’t even walk up 10 stairs to my office building without my heart pounding and being out of breath. I hate how running around with my kids for a minute or two has me feeling like I’m about to pass out. When I walk up and down steps I feel like my knees are going to buckle from underneath me. And I can be laying in bed about to go to sleep and randomly start having excruciating chest pains and I will have no idea why.

It’s just always one thing after another and I really need to do something about it for the sake of my health and my family.

What I Need To Do To Change;

Now that I have identified my problems and have come to terms with them, I need to make a game plan and figure out what I need to do to change it. So here is my plan:

1.       Eat Healthier/Clean

Starting tomorrow, 7/19/18, I will be starting a 1400 calorie diet. I know that seems really low, but when you are eating the right kinds of foods, they will keep you full for longer and over time your taste buds will change and the unhealthy foods that you used to like will start to taste bad (that’s what I’m hoping anyway lol). And the 1400 calories won’t seem so bad.

So for the next month I will be restricting myself on what I eat and drink. No more sugar, juice, soda, flour, white breads, pasta, rice, beans, potatoes, etc. I will try this for a month and see how it goes, because I do want to set a realistic goal for myself and not give myself a fair chance at being successful.

2.       Drink Lots of Water!

Water is a big key to losing weight. It boosts your metabolism, cleanses your body of waste, helps suppress your appetite, and when your body is hydrated it helps fight against your body retaining water and helps shed those few extra pounds.

I have found that when I only drink water, I tend to get thirsty more often. And I don’t have to remind myself to drink all of the time because I’m always thirsty.

Though I don’t have a problem with drinking water, I want to increase my intake, so I will be striving to drink half my weight in ounces. Yes… Yes I will be drinking 100 ounces of water a day. And that’s very realistic for me because during my pregnancies I was drinking a gallon a day (crazy I know), and this will be easier to do because I won’t have a baby kicking me in the bladder every 5 minutes, so I’ll be just fine.

3.       Work Out 5 Days A Week

Now that I am in a much better place than I was in before, this is definitely possible for me. I have gotten on this new schedule of waking up an hour before it’s time for me to start getting ready for work, so instead of just being up browsing social media or watching TV I am going to take that time to be productive and actually work out. Whether it’s in my living room, back-yard, or the gym, I will be working out 5 days a week. No more excuses. The only time I will have to do it is if I make the time. I may lose some sleep but in the end when I feel better about myself and the way that I look, it will be completely worth it!

And don’t worry I will be documenting my whole journey and you will be seeing weekly updates!

4.       Stay Motivated

I know for a fact that this journey will be far from easy for me, but I am okay with that and I am prepared for it. And there is one thing that I can say about my previous attempt to lose weight, and that is I wasn’t nearly as motivated and determined as I am now.

I kept wanting to do it for the wrong reasons. But now it has become more than just a thing about appearance for me. It’s a health issue as well.

This is what this whole journey has come down to for me; I am really unhealthy and it is time for me to change my ways so I can live a healthier, longer life and set a good example for my girls. I have never felt more motivated and excited (well other than me finally starting this blog) to start a journey that I know will be life changing for me.

My goal for this blog is for it to be a place where we can come to learn how to be better moms, wives, and most importantly a better version of ourselves. And that all starts with us making some changes and my time to change is now.

Do you plan on starting your weight loss journey and would like some support? Contact me and we can go through this together!

Let me know what you think down in the comments below and I appreciate you taking the time to read this! Have a nice night!

34 Comments

  1. July 18, 2018 / 6:02 pm

    This is something I’m struggling with as well.. I’ve had 4 kids and while I love my kids, I’m not happy with what pregnancy has done to my body or my homones.. Maybe we can help each other, I really want to get it back together..💞

    • Telia Williams
      July 18, 2018 / 6:31 pm

      Yes I know exactly what you mean! And I am totally up with connecting. Maybe we can be accountability partners and just motivating each other. You can either shoot me an email, or I can shoot you one if you are okay with that.

  2. July 19, 2018 / 12:51 am

    I can relate to this. Love it 🤗 thanks for being brave enough to talk about it.

  3. July 19, 2018 / 1:39 am

    Losing weight seems to be harder as I get older. And like you mentioned, it’s easy to let days go by without making it a priority. Also, I heard about Noom, a new app that helps with health goals. All the best to you!

    • Telia Williams
      July 19, 2018 / 2:35 pm

      Thank you so much for the support and I will try that app out for sure.

  4. July 19, 2018 / 11:28 am

    Such an inspiration. Keep doing what you do, what makes you happy and comfortable. Thanks for sharing ♥️ ♥️ By any chance you are interested on doing collaborations, you can check out the collaborations portal of Phlanx.com and connect with amazing brands!

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    • Telia Williams
      July 19, 2018 / 2:36 pm

      Thank you for the words of encouragement, and I will definitely check out that site. Thank you again!

  5. July 22, 2018 / 8:32 am

    This blog post is amazing, I love how you share all your personal feelings and insecurities with the world, it is incredibly brave. I hope that you will be able to feel your in your body again soon 🙂

    • Telia Williams
      July 24, 2018 / 5:48 pm

      Thank you so much! You have no idea how much that means to me. It was hard, but I know it will get better, and I hope that one day it will encourage others to do the same.

  6. July 23, 2018 / 8:22 am

    Keep encouraging yourself, you can do this! Many mothers are in the same situation including myself. So your not the only one. Thank you for sharing and informing.

    • Telia Williams
      July 24, 2018 / 5:49 pm

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read this! Your words of encouragement mean a lot.

  7. July 24, 2018 / 6:43 pm

    I relate to a lot of this. I am currently pregnant with my third and although I have not gained but a few pounds with this pregnancy I am still about 40ish pounds over where I would like to be. We can do this, though! Thanks for sharing your experience and struggle.

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      Congratulations on your new baby! And thank you for reading.

  8. July 25, 2018 / 9:58 am

    It sounds like you’re super motivated and I’m glad it’s for the right reasons! I’ve also been on a personal health journey. I used to be pretty healthy when I was in college, but after I graduated I began working as a 911 dispatcher. I sit down for 12 hours a shift answering phones, 911, dispatching, etc. I’ve gained nearly 30 pounds since college since I’m not as active anymore and I’m constantly feeling down about myself. I realized I HAD to make positive changes in my life, otherwise I’d continue to gain weight. It’s so easy to gain weight when you’re constantly sitting. I feel your struggle and I’m working on my own health right alongside you! Now I make sure to fit in a workout before work and I run on my days off.

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    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 10:08 pm

      Thank you for sharing some of your experience for me. That helps motivated me to know that there are others going through the same things.

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 10:07 pm

      Thank you so much. What you said is definitely true. They are only going to be this small once.

  9. July 26, 2018 / 9:22 pm

    You got this! The hardest part for me is controlling my food intake. I can’t burn it fast enough. Do you plan to use a food journal? I find it was helpful for me to see what I ate throughout the day. I also find that writing your experiences on paper helps and you are already doing this. Keep us posted. Take care.

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 10:06 pm

      I’m the same! Especially when I am at work. Thank you for the encouragement. I will definitely keep you all posted.

  10. July 26, 2018 / 10:55 pm

    I loved this post… I could so much relate to you on the few facts… pregnancy and having kids is not easy.. and you really have a very busy schedule… staying motivated is really important and I am sure you gonna keep up with your air to lose weight and be more fit.. thanks for this awesome post

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 10:05 pm

      I’m glad that you could relate. I really want to share my experiences and encourage others to start their own journey and be comfortable to share their own experiences as well if they would like.

  11. July 27, 2018 / 12:41 am

    These are great tips! I to am having the hardest time losing weight after my children and it really messes with my confidence.. I know I need to drink more water but that is so difficult for me!

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 9:51 pm

      I like to set an alarm for every hour to remind myself to drink some water when I know I will be super busy to remember it on my own. Maybe you can try something like that.

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 9:48 pm

      I will check it out for sure!

  12. July 28, 2018 / 2:08 am

    Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a strong and inspiring woman, and I can’t wait to root for you on your health journey ❤️

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 9:47 pm

      Thank you so much! You have no idea how much that means to me!

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    July 30, 2018 / 1:40 pm

    No doubt it’s a die hard struggle but the suggestions are wondeful..

    • Telia Williams
      July 31, 2018 / 9:46 pm

      I’m glad that they are helpful!

  14. August 2, 2018 / 1:43 pm

    Such a struggle. I am fighting that battle myself

  15. August 4, 2018 / 12:29 am

    Hi Telia! This was such a raw and honest post! I do not have children, but maintain a full-time job, a part-time job, and try to keep some semblance of a personal life… all while trying to build my blog! It is so hard to balance all the responsibilities and I believe as women, we are naturally inclined to care for others first. That’s especially true for mothers! I think you’re on the right track with drinking more water, being active five days a week, etc. Set small goals at first and once you are in a habit incorporate the next "steps" — that’s always when I’ve been most successful. Keep being a superwoman and supermom! Also, on this topic, you might enjoy this blog post about celebrating your post-pregnancy body! http://aliluvs.com/blog/2018/07/16/post-pregnancy-body/

  16. August 4, 2018 / 7:52 am

    Hey Telia, this is such a brave post. I think sometimes in the blogging community people get so wrapped up in the amount of followers they get and write what they think their readers want to hear rather than putting out the truth or what they really feel but this post is wonderful. Weight loss is a struggle for everyone, myself included. Trying on clothes and feeling worse about yourself is something I relate so much too! It’s honestly heart breaking. Your suggestions are really great though and I really hope you succeed in your weight loss journey! All my love, Lou xox

    • Telia Williams
      August 9, 2018 / 1:34 am

      You have no idea how much this means to me. Thank you for such nice words! I’m at a loss of words right now!

  17. Jennifer sharp
    August 20, 2018 / 2:15 am

    Such a raw, beautiful and vulnerable post! 💕

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