Becoming a mom was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me, and I love my kids with all of my heart. But if you have read my post “5 Tips To Help Boost Your Confidence,” then you would know that I have gained 60 pounds between both of my girls.
It has been 15 months since I have had my youngest daughter and I have been struggling so much to lose some of the extra baby weight. And I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself about it because I did carry two beautiful babies and we are all healthy and well, but when I look in the mirror at my body and see my stomach sagging over the waistband of my pants or how sometimes my oldest daughter comes over to me and starts jiggling my stomach like it’s jello or something, it can get really discouraging!
Hell even when I want to wear something nice to work, or go on date night with my fiancé and I put on something that I think will look good on me…I end up really disappointed and get a little teary-eyed because I feel like the clothes I put on make me look even worse than I did before I even changed.
Another thing that was difficult for me was the fact that my friends that also had kids around the same time that I did, their bodies snapped right back like they never even had a baby! So yes, I felt like there was always something around that discouraged me. I felt like something was wrong with me because I was the only friend that had this dramatic change in my appearance and it had me in a really dark place for a long time.
And the thing that has affected me the most is that I have had so many health issues. Back problems, chest problems, my knees are really bad the list goes on and on!
So after spending nearly a year of fussing, complaining, and being depressed about how I look and even more depressed about how my body feels, I have finally decided that it is time for me to actually do something about it.
I woke up one morning and realized that unless I start doing something about it, nothing is going to change!
And in order for me to start making positive changes and finally being able to lose weight, I need to figure out where the deeper problems lie and what has been keeping me from making some changes a long time ago.
These are the things that have kept me from losing weight;
1. My Depression/Mental Health
There was a point in time where I was going to the gym three times a week, but I had some really traumatic things happen at the beginning of this year (I will have a post about what happened at a later date), so I had to take a break from the gym to tend to some family issues and to focus on my mental health as I was falling deeper and deeper into depression (I also will be doing a post on postpartum depression soon as I suffered from it greatly).
At that time, I felt like with everything that was going wrong in my life, I had to cut back on some things that I was doing and just focus on not falling apart and regrouping for the sake of my mental health and so I can get back to being the best mom I can be for my kids (my fiancé was a big part of me getting back to my normal self).
2. I Just Didn’t Have Time
I have a full-time job, I am a mother of two under two, I have a fiancé that also needs attention and we need time with each other to keep our relationship happy and healthy. Let’s not forget to mention I still have a home to take care of and a ton of other things that I have to deal with on a daily basis. So I am a super busy woman to say the least.
From the time I wake up at 5:30 in the morning to get ready for work until the time that I am done cooking, cleaning, bathing kids, changing diapers, doing laundry… You get the picture, I am usually not even in bed until after midnight.
So I don’t have much time to get to a gym or work out at home because I am always doing something and my days can get hectic. I work during the day and my fiancé works during the night so it’s kind of hard to make time to do it.
3. I Eat When I’m Not Hungry and/or Over-Eat
This is my one of my biggest issues. At my work-place I am only a two-minute walk from a liquor so whenever I would get bored while sitting at my desk, I would just walk to the store and buy candy, chips, cookies and all kinds of unhealthy crap and just eat durning my whole shift. Let’s not even talk about how I could just drive a few minutes up the street to Taco Bell and be back at my desk eating in 10 minutes. Hell, there is even times where that I will have nothing to do, so I will just eat, and eat until I felt sick and I hate that I allowed myself to do that for so long.
4. My Physical Health
I had gestational diabetes during my last pregnancy and when you combine that with me now being 200 pounds, I am at a higher risk of developing type two diabetes. I’m also tired of the fact that I can’t even walk up 10 stairs to my office building without my heart pounding and being out of breath. I hate how running around with my kids for a minute or two has me feeling like I’m about to pass out. When I walk up and down steps I feel like my knees are going to buckle from underneath me. And I can be laying in bed about to go to sleep and randomly start having excruciating chest pains and I will have no idea why.
It’s just always one thing after another and I really need to do something about it for the sake of my health and my family.
What I Need To Do To Change;
Now that I have identified my problems and have come to terms with them, I need to make a game plan and figure out what I need to do to change it. So here is my plan:
1. Eat Healthier/Clean
Starting tomorrow, 7/19/18, I will be starting a 1400 calorie diet. I know that seems really low, but when you are eating the right kinds of foods, they will keep you full for longer and over time your taste buds will change and the unhealthy foods that you used to like will start to taste bad (that’s what I’m hoping anyway lol). And the 1400 calories won’t seem so bad.
So for the next month I will be restricting myself on what I eat and drink. No more sugar, juice, soda, flour, white breads, pasta, rice, beans, potatoes, etc. I will try this for a month and see how it goes, because I do want to set a realistic goal for myself and not give myself a fair chance at being successful.
2. Drink Lots of Water!
Water is a big key to losing weight. It boosts your metabolism, cleanses your body of waste, helps suppress your appetite, and when your body is hydrated it helps fight against your body retaining water and helps shed those few extra pounds.
I have found that when I only drink water, I tend to get thirsty more often. And I don’t have to remind myself to drink all of the time because I’m always thirsty.
Though I don’t have a problem with drinking water, I want to increase my intake, so I will be striving to drink half my weight in ounces. Yes… Yes I will be drinking 100 ounces of water a day. And that’s very realistic for me because during my pregnancies I was drinking a gallon a day (crazy I know), and this will be easier to do because I won’t have a baby kicking me in the bladder every 5 minutes, so I’ll be just fine.
3. Work Out 5 Days A Week
Now that I am in a much better place than I was in before, this is definitely possible for me. I have gotten on this new schedule of waking up an hour before it’s time for me to start getting ready for work, so instead of just being up browsing social media or watching TV I am going to take that time to be productive and actually work out. Whether it’s in my living room, back-yard, or the gym, I will be working out 5 days a week. No more excuses. The only time I will have to do it is if I make the time. I may lose some sleep but in the end when I feel better about myself and the way that I look, it will be completely worth it!
And don’t worry I will be documenting my whole journey and you will be seeing weekly updates!
4. Stay Motivated
I know for a fact that this journey will be far from easy for me, but I am okay with that and I am prepared for it. And there is one thing that I can say about my previous attempt to lose weight, and that is I wasn’t nearly as motivated and determined as I am now.
I kept wanting to do it for the wrong reasons. But now it has become more than just a thing about appearance for me. It’s a health issue as well.
This is what this whole journey has come down to for me; I am really unhealthy and it is time for me to change my ways so I can live a healthier, longer life and set a good example for my girls. I have never felt more motivated and excited (well other than me finally starting this blog) to start a journey that I know will be life changing for me.
My goal for this blog is for it to be a place where we can come to learn how to be better moms, wives, and most importantly a better version of ourselves. And that all starts with us making some changes and my time to change is now.
Do you plan on starting your weight loss journey and would like some support? Contact me and we can go through this together!
Let me know what you think down in the comments below and I appreciate you taking the time to read this! Have a nice night!